Transformed - November 18, 2018


Week 11: Colossians 3:20-21

Our faith in Christ transforms how we live in relationship to others. If everything we do and say is done in the name of the Lord Jesus, it will change how we live. Jesus has authority over every relationship we have and through the apostle Paul, he gives us instructions that will help our relationships accomplish the purposes God has for them. What is God doing in our relationships? He is …

·        Developing a healthy, well-ordered life

·        Prospering all of those in the relationship

·        Providing the optimal environment to reach our God-given potential

·        Reflecting well on the Lord Jesus Christ

The relationship between parents and children in the home provides opportunities for both sides to live out the new life in Christ. God made parents to love, provide for, and train their kids in the Lord. And God has given kids the freedom to choose how they will respond. Allowing Jesus to transform us means allowing him to transform these relationships too.

Discussion Starter:

What common challenges have parents faced from Bible times to today?

Getting into the Text:

1.  (Colossians 3:20)  Paul directly addresses children here, not their parents. What does this communicate? What is the reason or motivation given for children to obey? Do you think most children choose to obey or not with this reason in mind? What other lesser motivations might they have?

2.  (Colossians 3:21 and Ephesians 6:4)  Do these passages imply that effective parenting will never make kids angry? How might a parent provoke their child to live with buried anger, resentment, or discouragement?

3.  One of the ways that God has chosen to reveal himself in scripture is as the ultimate loving Father. Yet, even with his perfect parenting, his children often rebel and disobey. What does this tell us about the right measure of success in parenting? What do we learn about God’s expectations for parents from the following passages? Deuteronomy 6:4-7; Proverbs 3:11-12; Luke 15:11-32


1.  Reflecting on God’s best for parenting and family relationships can often stir up feelings of guilt, shame, regret, or inadequacy. For some, it brings back memories of painful childhood experiences and parents who fell short. But Christ offers transformation and a new start. Reflect on Romans 8:1-2 and ask the Lord to enable you to live in light of this truth.

2.  One of the most important things we can do for our kids no matter what their age is to pray for them. What specific things do you need to be praying for them right now? How can you step up your prayer game this week?